Spanking by Jaeda
My vision and method is pretty serious.
I work with the deeper layers of why you need this.
What effect has a form or even a hard spanking on you?
What does the (naked) exposure with you?
That's why a session with me always goes together with a good talk about your reasons.
I know how to handle my (punishment) tools and the energy of the strokes
so that the wished for effect indeed is reached.
That's a difference compared with how many mistresses and mastersmain are just focussed on the smacking.
That's not what I do.
Although I also will find your limit
of how much you can have because of the intended effect.
Sadistic extremes though are not part of my sessions.
I find it important that you can take in and process your spanking, flogging or caning,
because then it is effective.
If the strokes are too hard then the whole spanking misses its goal,
because in that case the only thing you could do is trying to escape instead of feeling.
While the core should be feeling.
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I pay a lot of attention to which of my tools have what effect on you.
I read your body, your reactions and that's how I see in what direction the process goes
and if that is the right one.
After a few sessions I will have a good idea how you fysically and internally respond,
and that will make me more and more capable of bringing you to the core of your being.
The core of my character will always be brisk about bringing you to yours.
The fact that you need a whip (or alike) to reach your core makes me picking it up with Love!
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There can be several reasons why you long for a spanking, in what ever form is yours.
Below youll find some short explanations.
In a natural way my method will adjust to your and your reasons.
Humiliation, Submission & Surrender
The imbalance in power between you and me as your disciplinarian will always have a part to play. In the one form that will be more emphatically than in the other form. Most of myy clients mention humiliation and submission as part of their longing. Underneath there lives the desire for surrender and letting go, and for - often finally - relaxation. To undress yourself, standing in front of me while bended and with your legs apart, your butt available for me, the questions I ask you, you asking me for the punishment you deserve, these things are all aspects that will call to account your thirst for humiliation and submission.
Discipline, Chastisement & Punishment
Spanking often is associated with discipline, chastisement and punishment. Confession, penance, bearing punishment, a big stick (cane?) that serves as a threat; traditionally all reasons for a spanking. It can be a deep inner feeling that you need punishment without really being able to indicate why exactly. But it also can be the case that you know exactly what it is about you deserve punishment for, making you confess to me about these themes in your daily life. What even makes you long for it. So a spanking as punishment of chastisement will be fierce, because you have to experience it as really punishment. Though in my vision as your disciplinarian it yet needs to be done with good policy and a solid realisation. Eventually it is even more an inner proces of transformation than only something physically that hurts a lot.
Masochism
You long specifically for the physical pain and for the physical and mental effects of it. Masochism has varying degrees. Are you a pure masochist? Then primary it is the excessively severe pain that will make you go deep. Though most of the time masochism is one aspect, like for example the longing to be able to take in more physical pain and to bear it, while at the same time is has its limits and it goes together with other aspects.
Relaxation, Letting go & Catharsis
Regardless how it works for you, it always will lead you to relaxation, letting go of stress and emotions, and even sometimes to catharsis (if it is a good and fitting session for your needs). Though this aspect can also be your outcome in itself; just your need for relaxation and letting go. Other people can find this in for example a massage, but you need a deeper impact. That's also a way to look at spanking and flogging: just as a relaxation session, while for example aspects like submission don't have a place in your way of experiencing this.
Reliving your past
In your youth or later in your lie you had one of more experiences with spanking or the threat of receiving one. Or you had - often at a young age - the longing for it and you finally - or again - want to experience it. Very deep cherished longings are often part of this, in which the lack of it often really hurts. Sometimes there has been a clear cause, but for other people there hasn't been such a thing. I believe it also comes from an archetypal meaning of spanking, caning and taking someone over the knee. It is in our genes that our butt is meant for punishment and correction - so to speak - and that is why the longing can come up spontaneously.
Whether or not fueled by the many typical stories in books, comics and films.
And you?
And perhaps for you there are even other aspects that are important... For successful sessions it is important that you write or tell me about it. And ofcourse also about what you recognize in the above possibilities.
